If you are like me, then Sex and the City is the series you base your life dreams on. Oh, to some day be Carrie Bradshaw smoking cigarettes on a balcony in my crop top reflecting on my past with my Mr. Big…
To me, a healthy relationship is one that distant at times. Any marriage counselor will tell you the time away from your spouse is a key to a happy (and successful) partnership. As much as you enjoy your time together, spending too much time together will eventually becoming tiring and soon you begin to crave your single behavior.
Single behavior is what Carrie Bradshaw defines as the quirky habits or hobbies we enjoy to do when we are alone. Alas, when someone comes into our personal bubble we feel conflicted. Our single behaviors are something that cannot be shared with, because it loses its zen when others are involved. For myself, my single behavior consists of brewing coffee and cutting out photographs and snippets from Vogue magazine. I also enjoy blasting classical music and sketching.
When I’m around others, doing these things lack their luster. They aren’t so fun because I become self conscious. It is my single behavior. Perhaps it is not so quirky, but I admit to also dancing to Spanish music in my room when I’m home alone. And yes, my mom has unintentionally walked in on me attempting the salsa numerous times. I’m sorry/not sorry.
Do you find yourself having “secretive” behaviors or habits? I promise, I won’t tell your (future) partner!